Daily Life

Day to day life can be tiring and difficult.

You may feel like this sometimes, or a lot of the time.

This section aims to help you consider different aspects of your daily life – our intentions, what we want in our lives, and how we act towards others and the world around us.

You may also find the section in “Light in your Life” about Daily Life, and text in the “Home” section useful too.

The stories may help to give the text further meaning for you.

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Introduction

  • Try to live simply and act with good intentions 8
  • Do what you can to help others 8
  • Seek to comfort, understand, give and forgive 8
  • Try your best in what you think and what you do, both for yourself and towards others

Possessions

  • Be careful and guard against all kinds of wants and jealousy. Life is not measured by how much you own and possess 3
  • If a person asks you for something, give it to them. Don’t refuse to give to someone who wants to borrow from you 1
  • Hold lightly to possessions and not want too much 8 

Other People

  • Be willing to help others and be a comfort  8
  • Help other people be stronger and better 3
  • Seek to work and to do things for one another because it is kind to do so, rather than to be seen and for your own praise 8
  • Whoever wants to become great among you must do things for the rest of you 1 rather than seeking to be served 8 
  • Who is more important: the one sitting at the table or the one serving? 3
  • Giving honour to yourself – that honour is worth nothing 4
  • If you are asked to take a low place or job, be willing to take it and even offer 8
  • If you are asked to do work that you feel is too difficult or too easy, don’t say “no” on the grounds of humility, but confidently attempt it

Intentions and Actions

  • Try to say no to things that are wrong 8
  • It is not what people eat or drink that makes them unclean or bad. It is what comes out of their mouths 1 – Food and drink does not go into the heart, but into the stomach 2
  • But what people say with their mouths and how they act comes from the way they think; these are the things that people should try not to do and should ask for forgiveness for. Bad thoughts, murder, disloyalty and cheating, stealing, lying and speaking bad of others. Also greed, acting deceitfully, doing bad things, jealousy, pride and foolish living. People should guard against these things and try to do right 1&2

Wider World

  • Try to be a steward of the world and not act wastefully. Try to see beauty in the living world, in nature and its creatures 8
  • Live quietly and gently. Try to meet others peacefully and joyously 8
  • Act against ignorance and prejudice, injustice and unfairness 8

Mindset

  • Try to give and not to count the cost 8
  • Try not to keep score, or expect to receive 8
  • Wish well on all 1 – a study showed that those who thought well on others as they walked passed them (such as “I wish for this person to be happy”) felt happier, more connected, caring and empathetic, as well as less anxious. This was in contrast to those who were asked to think of similarities they may have when they saw other people, and those who were asked to think of how they may be better off than each of the people they passed 11
  • Never regard something as doing you good if it makes you betray a trust, or lose your sense of shame, or makes you show hatred, suspicion, ill-will or hypocrisy, or a desire for things best done behind closed doors 10
  • Wisdom is proved to be right by what it does 3

Stories

When someone invites you to a meal, don’t take the most important seat, because someone more important than you may have been invited. The host, who invited both of you, will come to you and say, “Give this person your seat.” Then you will be embarrassed and will have to move to the last place. So when you are invited, go and sit in a seat that is not important. When the host comes to you, they may say, “Friend, move up here to a more important place.” Then all the other guests will respect you. All who make themselves great will be made humble, but those who make themselves humble will be made great 3