Dealing with worries

We all have worries about our life and things we need to deal with.  Dealing with worries can take up a lot of our time and energy.

These may be worries that we get occasionally, or we may feel overwhelmed by them.

They may be about money, work or study; what we have, or what we don’t have; friends, family, partners and anyone else around us, or because we don’t have these connections; because we have too much going on, or because we aren’t or can’t do so much.

Sometimes we may feel like words such as anxiety and depression better describe how these worries are making us feel, and we hear a lot about many different ways that may help, like using mindfulness and coping strategies. Its great if you find these things helpful, and there are further resources in the “Music, Books and Links” section that you may also find useful.

This section of the guide aims to help your approach to dealing with worries, however big, or small or however many of them you have.

The stories may help to give the text further meaning for you.

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Mindset

Other People

Intentions and Actions

Possessions

Wider-World

Stories

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Introduction

  • Try your best in what you think and what you do, both for yourself and towards others
  • Your God can do all things – all things are possible
  • Always pray and never lose hope
  • Don’t be afraid; just believe
  • You will be blessed, comforted, fully satisfied and with your God in your life that continues on if you know now you have great spiritual needs, if you are sad, if you are humble and meek, if you want to do right more than anything else, if you show mercy to others, if you have good intentions in your thinking and in your heart, if you work to bring peace, if you are treated badly for doing good. Your God will be merciful to you

Mindset for dealing with worries

  • Naming your emotions can be effective for making them feel less intense – for example “I’m feeling scared, irritated, worried…”
  • A study showed that those who thought well on others as they walked passed them (such as “I wish for this person to be happy”) felt happier, more connected, caring and empathetic, as well as less anxious. This was in contrast to those who were asked to think of similarities they may have when they saw other people, and those who were asked to think of how they may be better off than each of the people they passed
  • If you don’t allow the teaching to go deep into your lives, you will keep it only for a short time. When trouble comes, you may quickly give it up
  • The worries of this life, the temptation of wealth and many other desires may keep the teaching from growing and being fruitful in your lives so guard against these
  • Don’t worry and say, “What will we eat?” or “What will we drink?” or “What will we wear?” The people who don’t know your God keep trying to get these things, and your God knows you need them. The thing you should want most is to be with your God in your life that continues on, and doing what your God wants – by trying your best to do good and be kind. Then all these other things you need will be given to you. So don’t worry about tomorrow, because tomorrow will have its own worries. Each day has enough trouble of its own

Dealing with Worries Linked to Other People

  • People will insult you, be against you and hurt you. They will lie and say all kinds of bad things about you because you follow Jesus’ example. But when they do, be happy. Rejoice and be glad, because you have a great reward waiting for you in your life that continues on
  • Be your own person – considerate rather than a show off, authentic rather than following the labels, do good rather than seen to be doing. This is of more value for your life that continues on.
  • Find acceptance in who you are inside – consider what you really want rather than being distracted by the pull of others; think of what you expect of yourself rather than spending time trying to win over closed-off people – you can control who you are

Intentions and Actions

  • You try to get praise from each other, but you should try to get the praise that comes from your God, for your life that continues on
  • Your God even knows how many hairs are on your head. So don’t be afraid
  • Don’t be afraid of people. People can kill the body, but after that can do nothing more to hurt you
  • Your God knows what is really in your hearts
  • You will be saved by asking your God to forgive you for the wrongs you have done and thought
  • No school child can get through all lessons perfectly. It is the same with all lives. So act with compassion and consider intentions, and try to help others constructively when they struggle
  • Try not to feel exasperated, defeated or despondent because your days aren’t packed with wise and moral actions. But get back up when you fail, celebrate behaving like a human—however imperfectly—and fully embrace the pursuit you’ve embarked on

Dealing with Worries Linked to Possessions

  • Don’t  worry about the food or drink you need to live, or about the clothes you need for your body. Life is more than food, and the body is more than clothes
  • You cannot add any time or value to your life by worrying about it
  • Those who try to hold on to their lives, such as worrying about money, possessions and status, are giving up the Light in their life that continues on

Wider World

  • There is more joy where life continues on for a person who changes their heart and life towards trying their best in what they think and what they do, and asks for forgiveness, than over 99 people who don’t need to change
  • There is peace in your life that continues on
  • Jesus did not come to destroy the souls of people but to save them
  • All those who have left houses, wives, brothers, parents or children to do good and so be with their God in their life that continues on will get much more in this life. And in the life that is coming, they will have life for ever
  • By continuing to have faith you will save your lives
  • Who can be saved? God can do things that are not possible for people to do
“Whoever walks towards God one cubit, God runs towards him twain” Jewish proverb

Stories – Dealing with worries

The Farmer

There was an old farmer who had worked his crops for many years. One day his horse ran away. Upon hearing the news, his neighbours came to visit. “Such bad luck,” they said sympathetically. “May be,” the farmer replied.

The next morning the horse returned, bringing with it three other wild horses. “How wonderful,” the neighbours exclaimed. “May be,” replied the old man.

The following day, his son tried to ride one of the untamed horses. He was thrown and broke his leg. The neighbours again came to offer their sympathy on his misfortune. “May be,” answered the farmer.

The day after, military officials came to the village to draft young men into the army. Seeing that the son’s leg was broken, they passed him by. The neighbours congratulated the farmer on how well things had turned out. “May be,” said the farmer

Repercussions

What about those people who died when the tower of Siloam fell on them? Do you think they did more wrong than others? No, I tell you

Meaning

Bad things happen not only to those who do something wrong. Wider opportunity can present itself, such as allowing others to do good – a Doctor correcting their mistakes; or a friend caring for another.

A place to belong

A person has 100 sheep but one of the sheep gets lost. They will leave the other 99 sheep on the hill and go to look for the lost sheep. I tell you the truth, that person is happier about finding that one sheep than about the 99 that were never lost. 

In the same way, your God in your life that continues on does not want anyone to be lost

Don’t think little children are worth nothing. They have angels who are always with your God in your life that continues on

Meaning

Every one is valuable and God seeks us. God’s angels are protectors, guides and helpers.

Repercussions

There was a man who had been born blind. Jesus’ followers asked him, “Whose sin caused this man to be born blind – his own sin or his parents’ sin?” Jesus answered, “It is not this man’s sin that made him be blind. This man was born blind so that your God’s power could be shown in him.”

Meaning

Sickness is not a direct consequence of doing wrong in every case. Wider opportunity can present itself, such as allowing others to do good – a Doctor correcting their mistakes; or a friend caring for another.

Support

This is what people are like who hear Jesus’ words and follow them: That person is like someone building a house, who dug deep and laid the foundation on rock. When the floods came, the water tried to wash the house away, but it could not shake it, because the house was built well. But the one who hears Jesus’ words and does not follow them is like a person who built their house on the ground without a foundation. When the floods came, the house quickly fell and was completely destroyed

Meaning

Wisdom is putting humility, service and mercy into practice, and so prepare for the future life that continues on. Building on a foundation of earthly success and wealth will expose these as weaknesses in life that continues on.

Dealing with worries
“Mercy is the way love reveals itself when it encounters wrong”